I’m sure you’re not alone in wondering how to get just the right haircut for your most private of parts. The failings of the formal sex education system are many, and the lack of talk about what to do with our pubes is certainly one of them.

In sex ed, sexual hygiene is touched on mostly in terms of STIs/STDs transmission but otherwise, we don’t exactly get to chat about the various ways to coif our c*cks and c*nts. And though pubes are the hairy butt of many jokes, the way we upkeep our downstairs can be a big part of our sexual self confidence and self esteem.

It’s my opinion that what feels best to you is the most important but sexual interactions are not a one-way street so it can be nice to consider others’ thoughts about your thicket. I’ve seen all kinds of dirty bits with all kinds of hairstyles and not once have I felt turned off, repulsed, or even smug about someone else’s pube preferences. But that’s just me — hair is definitely something people can have OPINIONS about, whether it’s on your head, face, butt, or balls.

In fact, people have so many opinions about down-there hair that when I asked my Instagram followers to lend me their thoughts for this column, I got over 30 messages in under an hour. Here are just some of the responses to the question I posed, “Do you care about your partners’ ball hair?”:

“Yes, shaving your balls matters because ball hair traps stink. And don’t forget the crevices between your balls and your legs. Men could also do a little more in the ass crack area.”

“It doesn’t have to be a closer shave, but short enough that the hairs don’t get stuck in your teeth.”

“I love hair all over! Bush hair = clitoral stimulation for me!”

“It’s my partner’s choice if they want to shave or not…continue reading…