A fresh, charged up, moan-inducing, creative, and satisfying masturbation practice is crucial to your sexual single life. Yet, even in the age of the Tinder-based casual sexual “revolution” where the slutty swiping has been rightly de-stigmatized, the solo-swiping of masturbation is still something we don’t talk about enough!

Masturbation (and the orgasms that may come with it!) is something that has a lot of benefits! No risk of STI/STD transmission or pregnancy! Releases stress, relieves PMS symptoms, and helps you sleep! Gives you space and permission to try new things or new fantasies without an audience! No sex toy voting process! Gets the libido flowing during a dry spell because when it comes to sexual desire, practice can make perfect! A much better way to kill a few minutes than mindlessly scrolling through your Instagram feed!!

Most people stall out in making their self-lovin schedule exciting because they keep it too predictable. Most of us have sexual routines that come standard to us: we like this position, with the vibrator on this setting, for this much time, watching one of our three favorite porno clips (because let’s be real, no one watches a porn scene from start to finish without skipping to the good parts).

While it’s great to have your sexual standard in your pocket for when the time is tight and the moment is right, if you’re looking to create your masturbation practice as your main mode of sexual expression, you’ve got to put in the effort.

Do a Yes/No/Maybe list for yourself to get the creative (and hopefully other) juices flowing about things you might want to try that you haven’t thought of yet. Expand your options by releasing yourself from the assumption that only certain sexy things can be done alone and others can only be done with a partner…