The state of our formal sex education is bleak. And our sexual pleasure education? Even bleaker. Most people in this world are not having sex specifically to procreate – we want to have and give orgasms, we want to get closer to our partners and we want to feel GOOD.
But how do we learn how to do this? How do you learn where the G-spot, P-spot, or clitoris is? How do you learn which vibrator, lube, or dildo to buy? How do we learn to make ourselves and our partners feel sexual pleasure?
Usually, we learn about sexual pleasure in the ways we can – often by accident, often by guess-and-check, and way-too-often in ways that are terribly misinformed by Google, mainstream porn, social mores, and sweeping generalizations about what “everyone likes”.
My sex education and writing is pleasure-positive. This means that my workshops & advice focus not just on traditional “sex ed” content that highlights the negative (STD risk! accidental pregnancy!) but toward the pleasure-positive (orgasms! finding your g-spot! asking for what you want in bed!).
How to get and give sexual pleasure is something we can (and should) learn. On purpose. In a formal setting. With a professional pleasure-seeker & educator (that’s me!).
My personal style of sex writing & education reflects the beliefs that normalization & humor are the most digestible forms of sex education; that the more we know about sex toys, kinks, orgasms, vaginas, penises, butts and our bodies and our partners’ bodies and what makes us and them squirm, the better and healthier sex and relationships we’ll all have; that learning how to say an enthusiastic YES to sex will make the “No”s that much easier and the “Yes”s that much more valuable; and that the essential components of pleasure-positive sex education such as consent, self-care and informed choice have a powerful ripple effect.
If there’s anything my combined sex educational experiences have taught me, it’s that giving ourselves permission to feel good can change us. Putting real effort into making others feel good is a gift. That sexual pleasure can absolutely change the world.
And, that I’m quite hard to shock. So please, don’t be shy. Get in touch.
TL;DR: My sex education and writing is pleasure-positive. This means that my workshops & advice focus not just on traditional “sex ed” content that highlights the negative (STD risk! accidental pregnancy!) but toward the positive (orgasms! finding your g-spot! asking for what you want in bed!).