Title: Pleasure-Based Consent for Better Sex
Workshop Description: This workshop offers a unique twist on traditional consent workshops by linking intentional, consensual communication to greater sexual pleasure. Oftentimes the command “practice consent!” can seem like a tired directive, with little attention paid to how actively practicing consent leads to better communication and therefore better sex.
This workshop acknowledges that a key aspect to consent is being informed about what we’re saying no or enthusiastically yes to. So, alongside covering the central components of consent, this interactive presentation also includes pleasure-based consent role plays that get participants practicing the skills necessary to bring consent out of this workshop and into their real-life romantic, intimate, and sexual relationships.
By leading students to collaborate on consensual language, decisions, and strategies, this workshop draws connections between sexual pleasure and active consent; two essential parts of healthy, safer, ethical, and enjoyable sexuality.
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Questions answered in this workshop include: What does good consent actually look like? What words do I use? What does that do for my partner? What does that do for me? How do I say no? How do I accept a no gracefully? How does becoming informed about communicative consent lead to greater pleasure?
This workshop is perfect for…College students, a group of friends & adults more generally
Read up: Mashable.com // Consent Makes You Better at Sex by: Yana Tallon-Hicks
All workshops are customizable to your particular group & goals. Workshops listed on this site are just a few examples of the sex & sexuality topics Yana is trained to teach & talk about so please contact her if you have a particular topic in mind.
Testimonials for this workshop
After your workshop, Pleasure-Based Consent for Better Sex, my friends and I reflected on the general shittiness of our sex-ed experiences to that point, and it really brought back to me an idea I first had while sitting in high school sex-ed.
We were asked to perform an exercise in which, under the guise of assessing “risk taking” we were asked to assign levels of blame to all involved in the ” imagined situation” surrounding a gang rape at a bar, including the victim. At the time I was probably sixteen, and though I knew this exercise was really problematic, I didn’t know what to do for myself or my friends.
But I do remember thinking, ‘I want to do this better.’ You are doing it better. I wanted to write to say thank you for what you do, and as someone who believes deeply in implementing inclusive, sex and pleasure positive education.
– Pleasure-Based Consent for Better Sex, Bennington College, Spring 2016